How to detect and treat sexually abused students
It is frightening to think about the possibility that one of our students is a victim of sexual abuse or abuse, but unfortunately it is a reality and can happen to both boys and girls. Part of our being and our vocation is to attend to the possible aggressions that our children are suffering, as does mama hen, they all hurt us and we have to face the issue.
A child or child who has been abused is any child subjected to physical, verbal and sexual abuse by an adult. Sexual abuse VA FROM SUBTLE INSINUATION UNTIL VIOLATION. Many times children also participate in the sexual game because they do not understand the malignity of the case or because they are very seduced by the friendship and affection that the abuser offers them. When faced with the situation, we often do not know how to react or how to treat the child who has been the victim of sexual abuse.
Here you have some suggestions that will serve as a guide that prepares you to face this situation
Observe the changes in their behavior. After some sexual abuse, whatever their origin, the children begin to act differently, they can dump their frustration in school, in their homework, with their friends or siblings. Consider some of the following behavior changes:
They become fearful in front of strangers, do not want to go out or do not want to go to school. They do not want to separate from the mother.
Low performance in studies, especially for the feeling of guilt they have and the consecutive depression.
Suddenly they do not want to frequent certain people or places, especially where they used to go without problems.
He has sleep disturbances, insomnia, dreams of anguish, night terrors, can not sleep and have nightmares.
They start to behave like when they were younger: they retreat to such a point of urinating on the bed, not wanting to eat like an adult, they become whimpering and have tantrums.
They talk about sexual issues that you do not expect them to know at that age.
Detect your guilt Sooner or later you will come to this dilemma: Do children always feel guilty?
Unfortunately, every child who is abused keeps in his soul the conviction that he (or she) is guilty of the aggression that he suffers and that he deserves it. This makes street and it is very difficult to talk about it.
If you suspect that your child is in this situation, you should treat him very tenderly by letting him know that the person who mistreats you is hurting him and that he is not responsible for anything and that he will not be punished for it. On the contrary, if you can tell who it is, you will help it to end soon.
Consider who the abuser is. The consequences can be worse depending on who is the person who harmed the child. Sexual abuse always generates a trauma, but even more so, if the perpetrator is someone who supposedly cares for him.
The sexual abuser can be any family member, friend, teacher or companion who makes use of their situation of affection or friendship to approach the child and subdue him, to make him prey to his desire and pleasure.
It can also be a person who bursts violently into his life. The sexual abuser knows what he is doing, plans and repeats it if he has the opportunity.
Listen to your son, daughter or student. As an adult you should take control of the situation and give your child the psychological support he needs. Do not cry, minimize the trauma and make him feel that at all times the culprit will be punished. You will have time to vent afterwards, when the child is not present.
Find out, without pressing it, what is happening. For which you do not question him, reassure him and let him know that such things can happen to many people.
If he does not tell you anything, he asks for help from a specialist, because in these cases the child has already started to repress because he feels guilty of what he experienced.
As soon as you know who he is, report it and let him know that the child will always be helped.
Assure your child that you love him and that he or she is not responsible for anything, give him lots of love and tenderness.
Get professional help Cases of sexual abuse are not easy to assimilate, let alone forget. You must take the child to be assisted by a professional to help him get out of the trauma, so that he can lead a healthy life despite what happened.
Many times it will seem that you do not need help because the child does not show great changes, but you must bear in mind that all your emotions are repressed and that they can hurt you sooner or later.
It is better to advise and stay calm doing everything possible for the health of your child. A specialist can investigate more deeply and help you more.
FOR MORE INFORMATION READ HERE
https://www.unicef.org/argentina/spanish/educacion_Abuso_Sexual_170713.pdf
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